Just redha. Its a process.

Death, pain, despair, failure.

These are a just a few out of many things that shake our lives. That open our eyes. However, failing to understand the hikmah (reasons) for these tests will bring up something much unwanted ie. depress, hopeless and may even end up to suicide.

No i'm not telling you that you MUST understand why each and every thing happens, because it would be impossible to do so...

but what i am telling you that if you could consider these things as tests, not just for you, but for each and everyone in this world, and realise that the One spinning the wheel is Allah...then sometimes you could see that behind dark clouds are actually rain. Beautiful molecules of hydrogen and oxygen, so detailly combined, so complexly oriented, that no one could explain except Him. And only Him. 

155. And certainly, We shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits, but give glad tidings to As-Sabirin (the patient ones, etc.).
156. Who, when afflicted with calamity, say: "Truly! To Allah we belong and truly, to Him we shall return."
157. They are those on whom are the Salawat (i.e. blessings, etc.) (i.e. who are blessed and will be forgiven) from their Lord, and (they are those who) receive His Mercy, and it is they who are the guided-ones.
 (Surah Al-Baqarah 2)

214. Or think you that you will enter Paradise without such (trials) as came to those who passed away before you? They were afflicted with severe poverty and ailments and were so shaken that even the Messenger and those who believed along with him said, "When (will come) the Help of Allah?" Yes! Certainly, the Help of Allah is near!
 (Surah Al-Baqarah 2)

82. Verily, His Command, when He intends a thing, is only that He says to it, "Be!" and it is!
83. So Glorified is He and Exalted above all that they associate with Him, and in Whose Hands is the dominion of all things, and to Him you shall be returned.
 (Surah Yaasin 36)

Simply said, there are some incidents in life that we really can't plan.

No I'm sorry, there are MANY things in life that we can't plan. But by believing that things happen in our way made us become humans that deny the fact of how things should be and should not. And we start blaming condition, blaming ourselves, blaming others. The truth is, even I don't know what i'm babbling about...haha..

The truth is, learn to accept

No not just accept that it HAS HAPPENED..

but to also accept that is HAS TO HAPPEN..

and there you'll find REDHA..and there you'll see that its a process in life