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Ya Allah.Forgive me for my mistakes.Aid me with what I said.
For You are the Almighty

Love 03

Allah's Messenger, sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam, said:
"If Allah loves someone He calls (angel) Jibreel and says: I love so-and-so, so you love him. Jibreel loves him, and calls the other angels in Heaven to love that person. They love him,then his love will be made upon earth, and he becomes loved. "And if Allah hates someone He calls Jibreel and says: I hate so-and-so and you hate him. Jibreel hates him and calls the angels in Heaven and says: Allah hates so-and-so, so you all hate him. They all hate him, and his hatred is made upon earthand he becomes hated." - Muslim

So here's it. The Finale.
And in this post i'll get straight to the point. No more flashbacks, no more stories, no more analogies, and surely no more floating points..

1) Why i began with a story about Yusuf as a kid, was because i wanted everyone to know that no matter how clean and perfect a person is, Allah will always test him/her with love, because thats what'll make him/her stronger.And that's why we're called human. But the story of yusuf as a kid  also shows how  a person  who's inexperienced and naive treats love. Desperate rite? So in other words, everyone'll encounter it, but if ur not ready, thats what'll happen.

2) There will always be tests. The stronger your principle, the stronger the test. Even if you think you're strong enough, Allah will always test you with something you could never expect..but whatever it is, if ur principles are firm, you'll still pass, and that if you say no such thing as couples except after marriage, then be firm with it, no matter what people say, no matter how hard a girl or guy attracts or 'seduces' you.
(if you don't understand this point, its ok, bcoz even i couldn't after rereading it)

3) Never ever try to start nothing when you know that it could become something. ???. What i meant is if you know that you have feelings for someone, don't even TRY to initiate contact. Sometimes we deliberately do so, whereas in our hearts we knew how it would eventually turn out...so be careful NEVER start.

4) Accept that whoever you are, you'll always fall for a person. Especially if you're a guy, coz guys are a bit more sensitive in these love issues...BUT when you do fall for someone, NEVER EVER cooperate with it..acknowledge it you must, but to flow with it you certainly MUSN'T. Don't tell her that you like her, don't tell your friend that you like her, don't even tell yourself that you like her...just keep it within, its your secret and no one should know..try to even get a few metres between yourself and her, it helps in calming the feelings, and in a week or so it'll be gone.

5) Believe me, that one can never intend to help the other gender, without existing in his heart the slightest false intention, and again, especially if ur a guy, the intentions could easily change...seriously, i'm a guy too.
So there's no such thing as trying to help him/her, or trying to guide him/her, without feeling something else..
Hey..there's always many other people of the same gender awaiting your aid, why even look at the other gender?? Unless....ehm..
You understand rite?

So thats all, what i tried to convey throughout these 3 sequels..
No, not that i am a person who despise love..(I am a romantic person myself..believe me..haha..)

But what i really wanted to say was, if you're really into it, if you really think you're ready, then go on, get to the marriage and don't linger anymore, because if you do, many unwanted things could happen..but be aware, that if u're marrying just because of love, then that love can fade, but if you marry because you love and it's then tied with iman, then trust me the iman shall prevail.

But if you think you know your time, and that you know when you're not ready yet, then be firm. And even if you find the one you've been looking for, but you're unable to tie the knot (and you know why yourself), then tell yourself to wait. Tell yourself that there's always Allah who knows all. Wait, and the time'll come even if you don't do anything or even if you do something. So why even try to do something if suddenly he/she doesn't finally become yours??

And whatever it is. Love Allah first, and He'll surely guide you and bless you for whatever love you seek.

Allah's Messenger, sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam, said:

"If Allah loves someone He calls (angel) Jibreel and says: I love so-and-so, so you love him. Jibreel loves him, and calls the other angels in Heaven to love that person. They love him,then his love will be made upon earth, and he becomes loved. "And if Allah hates someone He calls Jibreel and says: I hate so-and-so and you hate him. Jibreel hates him and calls the angels in Heaven and says: Allah hates so-and-so, so you all hate him. They all hate him, and his hatred is made upon earthand he becomes hated."

Muslim

PS: Apologies for yet another long post..
PPS: The story of Yusuf in Love02 is fully based on incidents that occured around me. Though not all were of mine, but believe me, they all were true. So if you try rereading it, you'll maybe notice that you've gone through it too..??

Love 02

Al-Baqarah 2:165

Yet there are men who take (for worship) others besides Allah, as equal (with Allah.: They love them as they should love Allah. But those of Faith are overflowing in their love for Allah. If only the unrighteous could see, behold, they would see the penalty: that to Allah belongs all power, and Allah will strongly enforce the penalty.

Ok..so there's been this loooong break..again..
But you all must know..this is my FIRST sequel..and initiating a sequel..isn't as easy as it seems..because once you have an idea..it doesnt stay that long. so to discuss a certain matter..and generate the same idea to continue the discussion..just takes a lot of effort..and with the time constraint and everything, plus the way of organising my words..its just too hard to be put into words (really??)

Hm..actually all this complaining and moaning..were just to justify the fact that i was unable to comply with the promise of asap..
I'm sorry..

BUT..however late it may be..here it is..
and in relevance to the long wait, i'll make it a long post, insyaAllah...have strength dear friends, and keep reading..

LOVE 02

.WARNING.

IF U HAVEN'T READ LOVE01, YOU SHOULD OR U MIGHT MISUNDERSTAND THINGS !

Now in this sequel..i will have to make a new approach..and this approach will be in a story. And this story is about..hm..
lets give him a name..how about Yusuf?
his age?..lets start with 10
OK..so..it'll be about Yusuf..the no ordinary kid..(but not from 'no ordinary family'.a joke, huhu donno whether u understand or not)

Now why i chose this name must not be questioned because it is MY story rite??
ok.here goes.

Yusuf is a kid..he goes to an islamic school..(MUST we give the school a name also??, naah that would be too much)..and being 10 years old, he's living his childhood life at the peak. no worries..no exams..no nothing. All FUN.just the way a kid should live..

11 years old..something in him changes. He begins to get attracted to girls. Now remember this is an islamic school, so Yusuf gets interested in this certain girl..shes cute, bright and nice, but he knows that boys and girls aren't supposed to be loving, though he doesn't really understand why..but being a kid, it was his first time..and the feeling crushed his logic mind.
Such that when she raised her hand to answer in class, he would raise it too and when she had to ride the bus home, he would ride it too, even when she said her ambition was to be a nurse, he would say his was to be a doctor, all just for the sake of showing similarity. He scratched her name on his arm, he wrote it with marker on his foot,  would shout her name when he was alone, secretly stalking everywhere she went. He would write a letter using his left hand, expressing his feelings and everything in his heart, but then deliberately blurred out the sender, lied when suspected by the discipline teacher, and proved it with his right handwriting. He crazed for her, WHY?? Because he was in love..

So as he lived for another two years b4 ending his primary school, he just kept that feeling to himself...and also his bestest friend, and the best friend of his bestest friend, and any other best friend, frankly speaking, nearly everyone knew, but the girl....didn't.

3 years after his first love, he entered secondary school, a school that emphasises Islam as the true way of life..(*in other words an islamic school, but sincerely i never liked that word, i'll tell you why next time). It must be noted here that this school separates the male and female education. So there he had time to think about his feelings properly without suddenly bumping into any girls that might attract him.
He then learnt that love must be controlled, and loving Allah and living for Him is the PROPER obsession. So there on he stopped loving her...but the feeling would never fade, it always hovered around somewhere in his heart, sometimes emerging in his dreams, sometimes disturbing in his daydreams..

15, he took PMR and After PMR he changed school..and entered a mixed school. Initially he was ok..principles still strong, but months pass and again his feelings came, this time to someone really close.
It started with interest.
Then he liked her because she had a way that showed commitment to Islam.
Then he cared for her. So he had a mission. His intentions were pure, to change her into someone better. Lillahita'ala.
He got her number. They text each other. Not so often, but occasionally. Like when one would start with tawakkal for exams, then it would go on to about 10 to 20 messages, and gudnite. Now lets just call it seasonally shall we.
But before anything could get serious, Yusuf realised his mistake, and by not replying to her, she spontaneously realised where the relationship was going to. So they stopped.

However, something inside him had changed, his principles had crumbled and all that was left was the wall. He turned into a person who could fall and melt to any girl kind enough to him, it was critical, if u knew him at that time and even just sent a simple letter thanking him for teaching u biology, he would fall for you.
Pervert?? Call him whatever you want because that was him.
But alhamdulillah, with the wall, the obsessions were kept inside.just feelings..nothing more.
 He lasted for a year with the wall, but  a tragedy happened and he himself let the cat out of the bag. With Allah's aid, the girl didn't notice but others saw it clearly enough.

Being traumatic of this incident, Yusuf regretted and developed a new strategy. He called it the love transfer. Wherever he went, Yusuf would pronounce to himself a girl, kind beyond dreams, smart and fair as much, as an admirer that only he would be aware of. But the trick was, she would have to be someone beyond contact, someone he knew he would never reach.

The first week..success
The first month..success
The first year..success
The second year..also began with success
But in the middle of it..his worst dreams came true..his strategy had found its glitch. He forgot that the one who controls is only Allah. What happened was somehow he got in touch with the girl he admired. Either it was deliberate or a coincident, only Allah knows. And for a while he was lost. His heart had built up pillars of adoration to her and suddenly she was in front of him. He had dreamed to see her and here she was. No hesitation, no fear. He confidently made the approach. He looked back at her everytime she glanced at him. He smiled at her even when she couldn't see. He had become the old him. He was no more the Yusuf he knew in his early secondary school.

But remember, with every dark comes light, and Allah showed him back the path. Though reluctant to return fully embracing Allah's love, time and Hidayah processed him. He learned back the lessons he forgot. He loved her but it was just love. The truth was, he knew that if it came to marriage she just wasn't suitable yet. So why was he playing with his heart. Why did he even let the feelings flower up in his heart?
Why? Don't ask me, ask him.

And so after many hard days of cleansing his heart, he came back to Allah, realising the mistakes he had done all this while, he finally put the love to Allah as priority..and though through time he would sometimes fall, he accepted them as tests from Allah to build him into a stronger person.

Ok

for you all level-headed readers here, i know by now you'd be questioning, why the heck would i wanna know about some stupid kids love story rite??

So here's the golden opportunity not many bloggers give, you are free to comment on whatever you want, because this post ends here.

P/S: The no.3 is one of my favourite numbers...(other than 15)

Ya Allah, for my heart is only for You

guide me to Your love

Love 01

IF UR READING THIS...DO NOT CLICK THE RED 'X'..

Oh.come on..I know that by the time you saw this title you'd already be thinking that this post would be all about the 'so called' boring things like loving Allah..loving the Prophet PBUH..or loving our friends lillahita'ala..

SO IF U ARE..then STOP.

Because shockingly..today Abdur Rahiim Khamaruzaman will be talking about the thing that he reproaches the most.

L. O. V. E...

I really think explanation would be unnescessary, but just in case you still think im talking about the wrong love..

I am talkin about the feeling you have seeing ur bf or gf or future fiancee or future husband/wife...or whatever other things you call it..

I am talkin about the admiration filling ur heart as you glance at the most handsome guy or fairest lady in college..

And YES i am talkin about how our hearts melt as we see the kindness, sweetness and softness of the pearl of our eyes..get it?

This IS ABOUT LOVE

And I really mean LOVE...literally..

huh..even saying the word makes me tremble..

So what triggered this obnoxious post?

Yesterday, and today..yup, its been two days that mom has asked me..
And it sounds something like this;

" If ever one day, you really fall in love with someone, and you start thinking about marriage, what will you do. "

Then I would laugh out..questioning whether it was a joke.

She then said; "No, i'm discussing this seriously."

So i replied with my all noble face:

"Mama, you now that i was just joking about syifa', 'aisyah and even fatimah (all not real names)..sincerely, i know how to control myself."

Well, lately this year, i have been showing her some girls, giving her some names to add in 'the list' and truthfully i had always considered it a joke.you know, just a son-and-mom joke..and she would always say.."there he goes again"..
Back to the story..

Then she would say;

"My dear son, you WILL one day suddenly see your true love, and all that you would be thinking about at that time would be..marriage..then what will you do.."

And there i was dumbstruck, not only in knowing that she was seriously serious..but also that this has never occurred yet, and she convinced me that it will

" I donno..what can i do?"

And then it came out..

" If it does not bother you, i plead..please dear son, when you meet her, and your heart knows that insyaAllah you will be together..please keep her away for the moment..please wait..when the time really comes.."

Now, i know there will be many misunderstandings from this story..things like..
what do you mean by when the time comes?
why the heck am i telling u this story for?
whats the problem with ur mom?
and also..
like whats the problem with YOU?


Man..to solve it all, i'll be needing to tell a loooong story.
And you know how irritating long posts can get..and it is even more suffering for the one writing it..
so i'll stop here..let the questions float for a few days..and if u really think i should continue ASAP, please say so..
P/S: The post is called Love 01..

Ya Allah, for my heart is only for You

guide me to Your love